The unconscious drives us to behave in ways we can often regret. That’s why it is important to see how hypnotherapy can overcome problems creatively. Of all the emotions that bring people to see a therapist, anger is perhaps one of the most common. Strong emotions often force the advancement of personal resolution in very pernicious ways.
This video perfectly illustrates something we lose touch with very easily in our modern age. Meeting a situation with Ego and aggressive force often is not the best way to deal with challenges!
Here’s the breakdown:
A man finds security footage of a neighbour’s kid cycling around his driveway. This sets off security alerts that would have to be individually attended to. Some of us may be tempted to rush out and chase the kid away (perhaps with a garden implement). Maybe stern words with the parents could keep the child at bay?
Or maybe you could draw a circuit of chalk around your driveway for the kid to enjoy while steering him free of the security systems proximity alerts!
In order to deal with difficult situations effectively, we need to learn how to not allow them to get the better of us. This means staying calm and level-headed, and not letting our emotions take over. Only then can we make rational decisions and take action accordingly.
This is often the approach utilised by hypnotherapists helping clients with anger. It is always better to allay aggression and conflict.
Face Obstacles with Creativity and Resources Instead of Belligerence!
Sometimes, the best response to a challenge is to look at it from a different perspective. This doesn’t mean ignoring the problem or the source of the difficulty but rather thinking of creative ways to solve the problem or placate the situation with ingenuity. This can often lead to more resourceful and effective actions than engaging the brute force of belligerent anger. It means being open to new ideas and ways of thinking and coming up with solutions and solutions on the fly. We will often find this will result in a more positive and forward-moving experience, rather than a series of negative reactions.
We should learn to accept challenges without clinging to anger or aggression. Instead, we should become resilient in the face of adversity and frustration.
Being able to deal with challenges in a positive manner will not only help us overcome them quicker, but will also enable us to overcome future frustrations. To feel the frustration and anger that we often experience when we are faced with difficult challenges is very unhealthy for us. Our anger and frustration are merely signs that we are trying to change something within ourselves.
We may ask:
“What is it within me that is provoking this reaction? What is the wound within that need to be healed?”
Marcus Aurelius, the famous Roman emperor and stoic philosopher, once warned us that “when you feel a fit of rage coming”. It is better to exercise gentleness and civility. He continues by pointing out that we shouldn’t give way to anger and discontent. We should instead show strength and courage because it brings us closer to equanimity.
Bad decision-making can hurt us and those around us. Furthermore, aggression can make us more impatient and impair our thinking. This then has a knock-on effect of making it harder for us to make good decisions.
“The best fighter is never angry.” – Lao Tzu
The Taoist perspective on anger is that it is a result of the ego’s conflict with reality. When we fail to accept what is, we become trapped in our own egos and resistant to change. This is something we in the west should heed with humility!
As someone once said, anger is like a poison you give to yourself hoping the other person dies. It is the entertaining of these negative emotions that actually weakens us, not our adversaries.
The world is a complex and impersonal place. We are all divided by our ideas and beliefs. But we all have the capacity to influence and shape our shared reality. When people lash out against the world in anger, it only creates chaos and resentment. We need to find ways to come together and create balance.